Our Philosophy: We believe in the redemptive power of the therapeutic process and the importance of providing a warm, safe, non-judgmental and confidential environment. Our hope is that each student will experience in counseling the freedom to reveal their authentic, unfiltered selves as they share their unique story and work towards genuine healing and wholeness.
As Christians, vulnerability is not something that always comes naturally, especially in an environment of higher-education where almost every sphere of your lives as students is both evaluative and performance-based. As counselors we believe that this practice of vulnerability is vital in order to live lives that fully embody who God created each of us to be.
You are not alone.
HOME FOR THE HOLIDAYS
A few words from your Counseling Center…
Thanksgiving and winter breaks are what you look forward to all semester – a reprieve from the onslaught of work, reading assignments, papers, labs, exams, commitments, over-commitments, living in tight quarters, peer-conflict, responsibilities, and lack of sleep! Holiday breaks can be a respite from all of these things… but they can also mean the re-introduction of awkward, stressful or even painful family situations, loss of old friendships from your childhood or high school, loss of romantic relationships, loss of structure to your days and the supports you have come to love and rely on at school. If home is indeed a place of rest and comfort for you, then lean into that and allow yourself to be refueled.
Here are few tips we’d like to share to improve the likelihood that your break is indeed a break:
- Try and get at least a little work done over Thanksgiving break: It can be tempting to set aside all work and bask in the well-deserved, much needed time of non-Gordon related life. But Monday when you return you will have to hit the ground running with papers, exams and the final crunch of the end of the semester upon you. Many students become overwhelmed and a bit immobilized by lack of motivation. Decide what you know you can get done that is manageable and achievable for the weekend and be sure to do it. Clearing anything at all from your plate will help you feel prepared for what you will face on Monday morning back at school.
- Manage your own expectations and communicate them to your family and friends at home: It can be helpful to have conversations before you arrive home about your plans and expectations for your time at home. Your family and friends also likely have expectations of you and working this out beforehand can avoid conflict and stress. Keep your expectations realistic to avoid disappointments. Identify what you can control, and practice letting go of what you can’t, namely other peoples’ behavior, their reactions to you, or requests of you.
- Take good care of yourself: In the absence of the structure and demands of school, there is a tendency for students to abandon good self-care habits that you have worked hard to establish at school. This can lead to increased symptoms of anxiety, depression, and a decline in general well-being.
- Exercise, find time alone, drink plenty of water, communicate what you need to those around you and take responsibility for making sure you take care of yourself. Create structure to your days, even when it is fun structure! It will promote a sense of balance that will help you to enjoy your time off.
- Remember that you are part of a living community: Many students report feeling angry or frustrated by the rules, restrictions, and expectations their parents or family members still have of them. You may be living on your own right now and resent that your parents want to know where you’re going or when you’ll be home. Try to remember that while you are living independently most of the time, when you’re at home you are living in a community that includes others. Try to be sensitive to the struggles parents have in “letting go” and be considerate of them. Also remember that in the same ways you are adjusting to the changes you are experiencing in your intellectual, psychological, vocational and spiritual identities, your family needs time to learn about these changes and to adjust as well. Be patient, and hopefully they will also be patient with you.
- If you are going to a friend’s house for the holiday, relax and enjoy, even though it may be uncomfortable at times: It can be stressful to be part of someone else’s household, and can trigger feelings of homesickness or grief if you come from a family that is different. Take time to be alone, go for a walk, take a nap, and don’t be afraid to communicate what you need.
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Monday–Thursday: 8:30 a.m.–4:30 p.m.
Friday 8:30 a.m.–1 p.m.
The Counseling Center is closed on official holidays and when class is not in session.
The Counseling Center is located in Jenks 201 & 202.
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Deana Trefry, Director
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